What Do You Mean, Where Are The Keys? Thought You Had The Keys!

My primary concern when we decided to have our second child was that I not have a repeat of the first labor and delivery experience. Sitting in the exam room, a week after my due date, listening to the doctor schedule my induction around cocktail parties, and a promised date night with his wife turned out to be just the beginning of things that didn’t go according to my plan.

Giving birth to a 9-pound baby after 52 plus hours of labor, a week after my due date, I was looking for something a little more like what I had seen in the movies, or at least what I’d heard from my girlfriends.

After securing a promise from my new OB/GYN that he would not allow me to go past my due date, and would definitely not let the baby reach 9 pounds again, we moved ahead!

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The Catalog “Father”

You always hear about single women in their 30’s throwing in the towel and deciding to go it alone, to take the leap and have a child by themselves. Sometimes these women persuade a male friend to donate the necessary ingredients, but sometimes . . . sometimes they decide to use a sperm donor — a perfect stranger they know only through the numbers and very limited descriptions sent to them by the sperm bank eager for their business.

Apart from the fact that this goes against my religious principles, I wonder how exactly do you choose the father of your child out of a fourteen-page catalog? What are the criteria? How much do you want to know? And what, in your innermost heart, do you imagine about this person, when you think of them? More importantly, when the time comes due, what do you tell your child?

I’d seen her in the office kitchen but we’d never really spoken. I knew she worked in data processing, but that was it. Then one day I passed her in the hall and she was crying. I made her stop, asked her what was wrong. That’s when she told me she’d tried to kill someone the night before. She hadn’t wanted to kill him, it had just kinda happened.

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What is the Difference Between Mercy and Justice in Mission Work?

How many times do you go into missions looking to save people? Have you ever considered that maybe we’re meant to simply help them save themselves?

I was a full-time missionary in Eastern Europe. The country had been under Communist rule for decades, and when the Iron Curtain fell citizens went back to church in droves. And then, as often happens when life gets in the way of God, faith mattered less and less and the faith of the nation could now be considered “post-Christian.” Atheism is growing, complacency in believers is growing, yet there are pockets of Christians living on fire. Very similar to the state of faith in the United States.

I went into the experience thinking I would be changing hearts for the Lord. I thought I would be reaching the lost. Instead, I worked at a parochial school that taught religion classes in the native language, held weekly devotions in the dormitory, chapel services at the local church, etc.

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The Selfishness of Prayer

God taught us how to pray by giving us the Lord’s Prayer as a template. Have you ever found yourself going long stretches without prayer and then something happens – some trial or obstacle – and you find yourself on your knees because you have nowhere else to go? Even during a particularly faithful stretch in my walk with God, I can find myself praying prayers that are largely me-focused.

However, when Jesus taught us how to pray using the Lord’s Prayer, not only was he giving us a specific set of words, he was giving us a template. The Lord’s Prayer = all about God’s business.

THY kingdom come. THY will be done. We’re taught to be prayer warriors to bring about God’s work in this world. Is God all-powerful? Can he do this without us praying about it? Of course! We pray for the sake of obedience. We pray for the sake of the kingdom. We pray to be a part of God’s work here on earth. We pray to continue to strengthen and establish our relationship with him.

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Ladies, Let’s Talk About Vanity Today

Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten by God.  Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows. Luke 12:6-7

This verse from the book of Luke demonstrates the great worth we each have in the sight of God. He takes the time to count each hair on our head not because he is a detail-oriented obsessive-compulsive and not because he has nothing better to do, but because we matter so very much to Him.

There’s comfort in that kind of love, because we can find our value in relationship with God…a relationship that’s based not on what we do but rather in the grace we’ve been given.

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Easter-We Should Talk To Our Children Also About Death And Suffering

The topics of death or suffering are often very challenging for grownups to understand, and yet we are the ones who are responsible for teaching our children about these tough matters. Especially now with Easter, these difficult topics ask our attention In doing so, we should choose our words carefully because we don’t want to scare them, but we also don’t want to lie to them either.

The reality is everyone is going to die.  And sadly, at some point in your child’s life, they are going to be exposed to either a friend or a family member enduring a difficult or scary illness.  Hopefully, when that happens you won’t get caught off guard by the fully loaded questions your child is likely to ask like mine did recently.

My daughter is very aware of death because our extended family is in the funeral business.  However, up until recently, her understanding of death was that only old people die.  Or those who get into unfortunate accidents.

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Be a One-Income Family – Are You Kidding?

No, we are not kidding!  It is possible to pare down to one income, even in today’s economy.  The fact is, more couples are relying on two incomes than ever to meet their monthly financial obligations.  Statistics reveal that nearly 79% of married couples today find both husband and wife holding down a job.  This has increased from 66% back in 1977.  However, even in the face of that fact, there is still the possibility to get by on one income.

As is often the case, life events pop up from time to time.  For example, you may have finally decided to start that family, decided to go back to school for some further education or are even facing a layoff.  If these or other situations suddenly happen, it can potentially force you and your partner to confront the very real possibility of going from a two to a one paycheck family.

Even though the odds are firmly stacked against you, essentially cutting your family income in half is not as scary as it may seem.  In fact, with thorough planning and a willingness to make cuts where necessary, it is definitely doable.  That being said, let’s take a closer look at some ideas that can get you on your way to becoming a one income family.

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She Created Ripples In The Water

As we go through our daily lives we tend to focus on our own life, our own days, and our own loved ones. There’s nothing at all wrong with that, we focus on what’s in front of us. But the truth is that by going through our daily lives, pursuing our dreams or even just living our mundane lives we are creating ripples in the water of life that impact others in ways we cannot possibly see.

A young woman found a love of dance in her life, she had a passion to create a dance studio where all dancers would find encouragement, instruction and the joy of dance. She passionately believed that everyone should dance, even if they weren’t particularly talented at it because dancing brings our hearts joy. She knew that the lessons of dance go far beyond how to do the perfect pirouette, they teach self-discipline, they teach that things that seem impossible may actually be quite possible if we want them badly enough.

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Why I Can’t Make It To The Gym Today…50 Excuses

The reasons why I can’t go to the gym today are obvious, I mean look at this list! I can’t possibly even think about going to the gym today, I just can’t! (You should totally feel free to borrow one or more of these ideas…you know… if you need them). So check out as well this vide that comes with even more silly excuses:

I can’t go to the gym today because…

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5 Ways To Celebrate Valentine’s Day With Your Family

I have had a long time struggle with Valentine’s Day and the fact that the world, and the schools, seem to want us to include our kids in what was originally a romantic holiday. I get that really today it’s a pink and sparkly holiday and an excuse to eat chocolate–and I’m totally into any excuse to eat chocolate–but still, part of me struggles with the school parties and sending out Valentine’s to that one kid in class whose last name you don’t even know.

This year I think I’d like to try something different and just celebrate the fact that I love my kids, and they love me, and sometimes they even love each other (although those moments are rare!) So, with that in mind, here are some tips to turn Valentine’s Day into a family day!

This year, I’ll turn Valentine’s Day into an experience to remember rather than a secondary holiday for giving heart-shaped boxes of chocolate. It can be fun to get into the spirit of Valentine’s Day with those whom you admire most. Check out these ideas for special ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day as a family. and in line with Christian principles.

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